Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
[Let's call the author of this post Stuff. She's a long-time friend and contributor to my previous blog. This is a re-post from that blog. I'm re-posting it here because thought it would be a good post for Mother's Day. Since it's original publication, Stuff's family has grown to include a total of four children, two boys and two girls.]
I am not one of those baby-crazy women whose biological clock ticks so loudly that her husband smacks her in the morning when the alarm goes off. In fact, I never really pictured myself as a mother at all when I was growing up – I shelved dolls in place of snuggly, cuddly stuffed animals and dreamed of being a veterinarian. In high school, my career choice shifted, but not my interest in children – I rarely babysat and wasn’t sure I’d ever really marry. After a relationship with a really bad-for-me boyfriend, I felt sure I’d either be a single missionary or a cloistered nun. Sometimes I thought I’d be a concert pianist. The only thing I was sure about was that I wanted to serve God. Of course, if, by some act of God, I ever did get married, I knew I would want to bear my husband’s children.
Enter Squat. The man who turned my world upside-down, taught me what love was and that yes, men were really capable of it, and eventually took me as his bride. We did NOT conceive on our honeymoon, contrary to popular belief. It was the week after we got home.
I stumbled across an interesting post the other day. Wife and mother Kate recently pondered the sharing of housekeeping duties between husbands and wives. I’m curious to hear others’ thoughts.
“I had an interesting conversation with a colleague once who claimed that the chores men typically do around the house are the ones they’re interested in and women do everything else. Is that part of the anger? That in order to get husbands to help out we don’t make them do the unappealing stuff? And then all women do is the stuff they don’t like? That’s not a good recipe for happiness.
“And what the hell do the husbands think about all of this? Do they agree? Has anyone asked them how angry they are and why?”
Please read the whole thing and tell me what you think. I’m particularly interested in hearing from stay/work-at-home dads and their wives. I’m sure that changes household dynamics quite a bit compared to the traditional norm.
You might wonder why I’ve asked for thoughts and haven’t offered my own. Well, I’m still working on them. As a busy work-at-home dad, spare time sufficient for writing original thoughts is rare. Hopefully, with the help of my readers’ shared experiences, I’ll have something interesting and original to contribute.